Two years ago, an online post titled "The Young Girl of the Progressive Girls in the USA" wrote a blog post about the complaints of foreign men who married Chinese women, from living habits to getting along with their parents, to their children's education, and to cultural differences. Making transnational marriages full of ridiculous distress. The Chinese talk show star from the USA, “North American Trigol”, has been organizing this subject a few days ago. He told us about the troubles of “foreign sons and daughters” in an authentic Beijing dialect.

North American Tric: The male compatriots in USA remember what I said, do not marry Chinese women. Once you married your Chinese wife, you were not married to someone. You married a family. Her mother and her dad arrived. Catch up with her grandfather and grandmother. Is it right? Never had you ever stood up and set up an embarrassment, did you? It turns out that we didn't have a fly swatter in our family's life. Now it's a fly swatter everywhere. You said that I and my own parents only saw Christmas once a year. I lived with the old father-in-law and the old mother-in-law all the time. Every day, I see you, and nobody knows anyone's words. This is particularly depressing. Once we live in a house, it doesn't matter if it's privacy. It's all gone. I often sleep in the room. My old mother-in-law pushes in the door, and I cover my lap with a quilt, and I just have to quarrel with my wife. Immediately, these two elderly people told me to do. The two men do not usually speak English, but they will say something, (Say Sorry), you say you are wrong, you are wrong...

The foreigner's Mandarin and Beijing dialects are really amazing. Apart from the different family concepts, the details of life exposed in exotic marriages are also ridiculous. In particular, it is often ruthlessly attacked by the father-in-law's mother-in-law, and it is these mischiefs that make these "foreign girls" miserable.

North American Cuige: My lifelong habit is to go to the movie theater every week to see a blockbuster movie. I've had a fight with the Chinese wife. Every time I watch a movie, my wife said, what do you want to see? All right, isn't it? USA has an AA system. Everyone pays their own money. Since the AA system of Chinese wife can't be enforced, I talked about what AA system she spends on money, and your money is my money. Your money is all in the palm of your hand. It's mine. You take my money, who are you? Valentine's Day I said to my wife to buy flowers, I said you like what flowers, she said you do not come to this fake move, and the family did not have soy sauce, or buy a bottle of soy sauce it. You see.

Faced with different life details, is it just that foreign women have complaints? Hu Fang, a special correspondent for the Global Mandarin Broadcasting Network in Australia, said that in reality, “Chinese daughter-in-law” will be dissatisfied with the situation. Even if they are married for many years, they cannot fully understand the Western values.

Hu Fang: The marriage between new immigrants and native Australians tends to have a run-in period. A decade ago, a friend of mine and a Sydney-born Irish boy fell in love. After a few outings at the beginning, she came to us. Help the old Chinese friend to complain because the boy did everything with her AA system and watched a movie AA system. So, please eat a popcorn, travel tickets to Melbourne are all bought, and after 3 or 4 years, The two people finally started to talk about marriage, and the upgraded version of the AA system came again, that is, the premarital property notarization, and the sum of all the assets of the two of them was also a decade old and almost enough for a house. The money for the down payment, the couple has some savings in the past few years to prepare to find a piece of land to build a house. For a while I saw the girl's special embarrassment. When she asked, she was working out with the owner of the land to determine the price of the land bought and sold. The owner of the land was not someone else who was the father of her foreigner's husband. At that time, she could not accept it a bit. When the son wanted to build a house, he needed to ask Dad to buy the land, but Mr. foreigner in his eyes, all adults over 18 years old in the economy that must be fully independent and parents, rely on themselves to feed their families.

The distress of these details of life, at best, is a joke, but only one may be unacceptable for foreign husbands—that is, how Chinese people educate their children. Europeans and Americans raise their children mostly to make them happy and happy. Few parents have to make their children better.

The Chinese people are different. According to this blog post, “Chinese children learn piano and learn martial arts from the elementary school. When they are 18 years old, they read the doctoral degree and master degree. In terms of foreign husbands, the only goal for Chinese parents is how to Drive your child crazy as soon as possible."

This may sound somewhat extreme. Parents do not hurt children, but differences in the concepts of Chinese and Western education do cause great disagreements between husband and wife.

In fact, for the open Westerners, they are subjectively very willing to accept the habits of the Eastern wife, and the traditional Chinese people will also take care of their sons and daughters, and respect their husband’s wishes as much as possible. But the foundation of all this must be the love of one another.

Pangzhe, a special journalist of Global Chinese Broadcasting Network, USA: For husbands who adore Eastern culture and are keen to learn the customs of different cultures, they generally respect the customs, special customs, and etiquette of the Oriental and they are proud of it. Together with his wife's affection, he will also tolerate humility and show off in his circle of friends. However, some of the USA husbands who are merely pursuing the appearance characteristics of the East Asian women or mistakenly thinking that the Eastern women are humble and docile may be disappointed or even surprised. The outcome is certainly not good.

From the perspective of Chinese women, if they love their own husband in the USA, the Chinese wife will also make every effort to reduce this cultural difference. It may cause pressure on her lover, but if she pursues the purpose of her husband in the West. It is for financial or other purposes that have nothing to do with feelings, so the outcome will not be good. This research report points out that no matter what kind of marriage, if it is not for love, it will be troublesome.

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